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Dear Sabby,

I’m 25 years old and all of my friends are about the same age give or take a few years and every damn one of them are married. I don’t know how I should feel about this. In a way, I’m jealous because they all seem really happy and I just don’t quite fit into their world of marriage. I could use your wisdom on this one.

Nicole – California

Oh my dear Nicole. I can see how it it could be frustrating to be the single friend amongst a group of other ladies your age who are all happily married – probably to great men who make decent money and satisfy them every night as you sit alone at home with your cat eating Ben & Jerry’s while watching sappy movies on the Oxygen channel.

Oh shit, I’m supposed to be making you feel better about this, aren’t I…

Let’s be real. You’re only 25. You have many, many, many, many years ahead of you to fall in love with a guy and marry him. Try to remember that your friends probably aren’t always as happy as they seem. Marriage is hard work and it’s not nearly as awesome or appealing when you’re no longer on the outside looking in. So tonight, go home and crank your vibrator up as high as it goes and rejoice that you don’t have to fake a headache tonight or bring your man another beer.

I had an insane dream last night. I’m already known in my family for having strange dreams. No scratch that… fucking outrageously weird dreams. The one last night was both uncomfortable and just plain sick.

I was on a couch watching something on TV with the guy I had my first crush on. We’ll call him Tony. So Tony and I are snuggled on the couch and we starting kissing. Things started to get rather hot and heavy when he tells me that we should wait a while longer before we decide to have sex. Then come to find out, he only meant for us to wait until a commercial came on.

He pulls off my pants and he’s down in my underwear with his hand when my mother comes in. Now, this of course would be completely awkward and startling no matter how old you are and even if it’s perfectly acceptable for you to be having sex. For some reason, we didn’t skip a beat. My mom sat down talking to us like we weren’t totally in the middle of having sex. We had a full blown conversation.

My dreams are friggin weird. My advice? Skip the shot of tequila before bedtime [or drink a hell of a lot more of it so you don't remember shit like this].

Hi Sabby,

I’m a 30-something year old divorced woman with 3 children. I am currently in a relationship with a man a few years younger than I. My family thinks it’s weird. So much in fact that they don’t include him when inviting me to family events. They tell me to leave him at home. I can’t figure out what the problem is. He’s a great man. He’s fantastic with my children and I know if they would look past the fact that he’s younger than me, they would really like him. How can I get them to see what I see?

Miranda – Virgina

Gonna be honest with you here Miranda. It sounds to me like there is something more to the puzzle. I doubt the guy being just a few years younger than you is the issue here.

You’re divorced. I’ve been there. Your family probably worries that you’re in another relationship because let’s face it – divorce is insane and stressful on everyone in the family including your children. And it’s probably even more weird that you’re new boy toy is younger than you. A lot of people associate age with wisdom, maturity and stability.

Ask yourself – What does my family see? What is it I see that they don’t? And if you can’t answer your own questions, then you need to talk to your family. Are you by chance being defensive of the guy just because he’s your boyfriend? Are you possibly too close to the situation to see the big picture?

Then you have to ask yourself a very, very important question. Is this guy important enough that you require your family be nice and accepting of him – either the two of you or nothing at all? Communication is going to be key on this one. You can’t just expect to bring the guy to dinner with your folks and expect them to fawn all over him just because you do. I wish it worked that way, but it doesn’t.