Dear Sabby,

My boss is constantly talking to me about her newborn daughter. I get that she’s excited, but it’s driving me crazy. My husband and I have been trying for about five years now to have children, so her constant chatter about her new baby is emotionally digging under my skin. How do I tell her to stop without things getting really awkward?

Brynn – Colorado

I don’t think there is a way to handle this without it being awkward. You have a couple of options but it’s up to you which one will suit you best.

You can politely tell your boss the truth. I think this would be the most affective. The easiest way to do this is use her own conversation to gradually bring up your issues with conceiving. Hopefully she’ll feel guilty enough to stop talking about her daughter constantly. Once she realizes she’s been unknowingly rubbing it in your face, she’ll probably stop.

If you try that and it doesn’t work or you would just like to take the more direct approach, flat out tell her that her constant talk about her new baby is hurting your feelings and that you’d like her to stop.

Or if you just feel like being a bitch, talk about your dog or cat constantly. Yeah… be that woman.

Hi Sabby,

I’m a 30-something year old divorced woman with 3 children. I am currently in a relationship with a man a few years younger than I. My family thinks it’s weird. So much in fact that they don’t include him when inviting me to family events. They tell me to leave him at home. I can’t figure out what the problem is. He’s a great man. He’s fantastic with my children and I know if they would look past the fact that he’s younger than me, they would really like him. How can I get them to see what I see?

Miranda – Virgina

Gonna be honest with you here Miranda. It sounds to me like there is something more to the puzzle. I doubt the guy being just a few years younger than you is the issue here.

You’re divorced. I’ve been there. Your family probably worries that you’re in another relationship because let’s face it – divorce is insane and stressful on everyone in the family including your children. And it’s probably even more weird that you’re new boy toy is younger than you. A lot of people associate age with wisdom, maturity and stability.

Ask yourself – What does my family see? What is it I see that they don’t? And if you can’t answer your own questions, then you need to talk to your family. Are you by chance being defensive of the guy just because he’s your boyfriend? Are you possibly too close to the situation to see the big picture?

Then you have to ask yourself a very, very important question. Is this guy important enough that you require your family be nice and accepting of him – either the two of you or nothing at all? Communication is going to be key on this one. You can’t just expect to bring the guy to dinner with your folks and expect them to fawn all over him just because you do. I wish it worked that way, but it doesn’t.

Dear Sabby,

I have known this guy for pretty much my whole life like since primary school. I’m 19 now. We’ve never been close just more like acquaintances but I’ve always been attracted to him. Well recently we hooked up at a party and ended up having sex. Now he won’t speak to me. What gives?

Ashley – Texas

First off… boys suck. That’s usually reason number one. But let’s face the facts here. You thought he was “like a total hottie” so you slept with him thinking you’d wake up like you are in some cheesy chick flick to breakfast in bed and the promise of forever. Sorry hun that shit doesn’t happen in real life.

You hooked up at a party and I’m guessing alcohol was involved. One or both of you probably had too much to drink and therefor weren’t thinking clearly. Hell, we already know you weren’t. So chances are, he was either just in it for the ass or he’s feeling guilty because he had sex with you under such poor circumstances.

You weren’t buddy-buddy to begin with so I don’t know why you’d expect conversation out of him at all – much less after having sex with him. My advice? Get checked for crabs and move on with your life.